Monday, January 3, 2011

Focus on the Positive

I say it to everyone else.  "Focus on the positive."  Seriously.  And then, what do I do?  Focus on the negative!  I mean, isn't that logical?

I think about what I want to change.  I think about where I want to grow.  I think about what I want to accomplish or achieve...  Which means, these are places that need to change or things that I haven't done yet.  They become places of lack, failure, short-coming.

My resolutions for the new year are based on what I didn't accomplish last year.  ugh.

So, it's time to turn it on its head.  As I was feeling sorry for myself today, I visited The Happiness Project and ended up at to reflect on the past year.

And the questions turned me on my head.

Instead of "what do you want to accomplish next year?" (to which I always add the parenthetical - "that you didn't accomplish last year"), the questions were a bit more positive.

Here's a sampling:

  • What makes you different and what do you do that lights people up?
  • What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010?
  • What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out?
  • What’s the one thing you have come to appreciate most in the past year?
  • How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year?
  • What was the best thing you learned about yourself this past year?
  • What healed you this year?
  • What did you eat this year that you will never forget?
  • What was one of your most joyful ordinary moments this year?

So, now, instead of focusing on what I didn't accomplish or do or what I lack/lacked, I'm thinking about what makes me unique, what makes me happy, where I have already healed and what I already accomplished.

So, what about you?  What great things did you experience last year?  What were your happiest moments?  And how did those moments make your life better?

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